dear girl,
I seek your guidance in my very difficult situation. I 51. am
Now years old, but mentally wounded
College is also my own as a result of severe bullying
congenital problems. I finally managed to get a six year job
After graduation, but did not make much progress in it.
Soon after, I got married to a qualified girl working in a multinational company. it was an arranged marriage
After Kundli matching and I had agreed to a
meeting with the girl. she is of my caste but no
My society Initially she was fine and she told me that
It doesn’t matter if you are facing problems with your career,
I am with you and you don’t have to worry financially
Front.’
A few years later, I lost my job, and then all
That kindness flew out the window. she got cold,
Refusing to have sex and stop communicating with
me completely. I thought it was a passing phase and once I
Settled in again, things will improve. they didn’t
Instead his parents joined in and started calling me
Waste. Meanwhile, I did manage to get some jobs
But found them too demanding, and left.
Then came the last blow. she moved out and went to live with him
Parents. This is five years ago, during which he
Refused to answer any calls or messages. In fact, she
Blocked me on whatsapp and email. i can inform you
that I’m working again, but without anything important
progress in my job profile though i am taking online
Courses to upgrade my skills. By the way, I also consulted
a few years ago a psychotherapist who helped me control
Uncontrolled obsessive disorder. i am also on medication
For some chronic diseases.
Please suggest what should be my future course of action.
Should I focus exclusively on my career and leave my
Personal issues for God in this hope
Will things improve over time?
– Mr Train Wreck
Dear Mr. Train Wreck,
Looks like you’ve definitely been assigned problems
Spades name it and you’ve got it. matrimonial, professional,
physical, psychological or even mental. and each
They excite others. your problem is not yours
Problem. this you are making them an excuse and thus allowing
They will hijack your life, and destroy it.
I’m tempted to say that I’m not surprised your wife left in
despair over you ever getting a hold of your job or your mental
State. Yes, yes, marriage is ‘for better or for worse, in sickness’
and in health’, etc., but a woman also deserves her own happiness
especially when the man she’s unhappy with just doesn’t show up
Self help sign.
Well, you can’t be blamed for your OCD, and I’m glad you
Asked for proper help for this. at least i will give you good marks
Taking what is not an easy decision in our society.
However, You Can’t Make College Time Bullying
For your own refusal to pull yourself together Fig. Listen
Man, a lot of people have to do things they don’t like,
But they don’t go out just because they find them too
Boring or ‘demanding’. If you want to overcome your laziness,
So you have to accept the result.
You say that you are taking courses to upgrade your skills. it’s probably
Too little, too late for your marriage. but it’s never too late
Improve yourself worth. all your problems stem from
lack of desire to do so. you ask if you should leave your
Personal issues to God. My answer has been wisely stated that
God helps those who help themselves. And, yes, a good place
Beginning with your poor, neglected career.
Ask your baby girl @youaskweanswer@timesinternet.in
(Write Giving Knowledge in the subject line of your email)
Disclaimer
The views expressed above are those of the author.
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