For men there was wondering how to support women This International Women’s Day (and the other 364 days of the year), we’ve got you some dos and don’ts. if you call yourself Feminist In real life partners, dating apps or social media, here are some pointers for targeting what you claim:
1. Don’t Say “What About Men’s Day?”
It exists, it is on the 19th of November and it is a day – as symbolic as it is – that takes nothing away from you. Celebrate your day if you are so inclined.
2. Don’t Participate in the Manel
Got an invitation for a panel discussion without women? Put your feet down Say no and tell the organizers exactly why – a meaningful discussion may not exclude half of the point of view humanity,
3. Don’t send di*k pictures
For the love of all that is sacred, don’t send pictures that no one asked for. No woman wants to check their information during a meeting or when entering the gym just to be impressed by your genitals.
4. Pay women fairly
This one is pretty straight forward. Don’t pay women less than male counterparts for any of the following reasons: a) they may someday have a child, b) they didn’t “aggressively” demand money enough, c) you get away with it can, d) they “wouldn’t” (in your estimation) work as hard.
5. Don’t Be Awkward About Feelings
People cry, it is a normal part of life. Don’t be so weird about it. If a woman cries, don’t panic. Don’t, don’t, and this is important, don’t ask him if he’s on his period. Feel free to cry when you feel like it, or express your weaknesses – it takes nothing.
6. Don’t let other women down to lift a woman up
“You’re not like other girls” is not a compliment. Plus the flattering, flirtatious gems that some men think they are – telling women how great it is they’re not “high maintenance” or how “tough” another woman at work is and then adding “But you are not doing that way”.
7. Advocate for him in Boys Club
If you’re in a meeting full of men and some sign women, be aware if women are being talked about or dismissed. Instead of laughing, say something about sexist jokes.
8. Call your friends
Do you know that friend you wouldn’t want your sister to date because of her misogyny and sketchy dating history? Call him out on it instead of laughing along.
9. Don’t Stress On Dating Apps (Or Anywhere Really)
So you match with a woman on a dating app, and after a few cursory hellos, the conversation ends, it’s okay to reach out again. But don’t do it over and over again with increasing levels of anger, frustration, or authority. And it goes without saying, don’t be pushy IRL – a woman doesn’t deserve your intimacy because she went out with you, smiled or was nice to you.
10. Be an Ally of LGBTQ Women
Do not sexually abuse lesbian or bisexual women. It is gross and centers your own sexual fantasies on someone else’s reality.
1. Don’t Say “What About Men’s Day?”
It exists, it is on the 19th of November and it is a day – as symbolic as it is – that takes nothing away from you. Celebrate your day if you are so inclined.
2. Don’t Participate in the Manel
Got an invitation for a panel discussion without women? Put your feet down Say no and tell the organizers exactly why – a meaningful discussion may not exclude half of the point of view humanity,
3. Don’t send di*k pictures
For the love of all that is sacred, don’t send pictures that no one asked for. No woman wants to check their information during a meeting or when entering the gym just to be impressed by your genitals.
4. Pay women fairly
This one is pretty straight forward. Don’t pay women less than male counterparts for any of the following reasons: a) they may someday have a child, b) they didn’t “aggressively” demand money enough, c) you get away with it can, d) they “wouldn’t” (in your estimation) work as hard.
5. Don’t Be Awkward About Feelings
People cry, it is a normal part of life. Don’t be so weird about it. If a woman cries, don’t panic. Don’t, don’t, and this is important, don’t ask him if he’s on his period. Feel free to cry when you feel like it, or express your weaknesses – it takes nothing.
6. Don’t let other women down to lift a woman up
“You’re not like other girls” is not a compliment. Plus the flattering, flirtatious gems that some men think they are – telling women how great it is they’re not “high maintenance” or how “tough” another woman at work is and then adding “But you are not doing that way”.
7. Advocate for him in Boys Club
If you’re in a meeting full of men and some sign women, be aware if women are being talked about or dismissed. Instead of laughing, say something about sexist jokes.
8. Call your friends
Do you know that friend you wouldn’t want your sister to date because of her misogyny and sketchy dating history? Call him out on it instead of laughing along.
9. Don’t Stress On Dating Apps (Or Anywhere Really)
So you match with a woman on a dating app, and after a few cursory hellos, the conversation ends, it’s okay to reach out again. But don’t do it over and over again with increasing levels of anger, frustration, or authority. And it goes without saying, don’t be pushy IRL – a woman doesn’t deserve your intimacy because she went out with you, smiled or was nice to you.
10. Be an Ally of LGBTQ Women
Do not sexually abuse lesbian or bisexual women. It is gross and centers your own sexual fantasies on someone else’s reality.